Attachment And Earned Security

The purpose of adult attachments is to earn security.  We naturally desire to have someone come alongside of us in our adult years who will build a secure attachment with us.  When we feel insecure in our love relationship communication suffers, intimacy suffers, and enjoying time together begins to disappear.
Sometimes we feel we cannot explore the difficulties we face with the people we love.  Sometimes it seems we need a chance to understand on our own before we can communicate with others.  It is important to feel safe to understand ourselves and to feel confident to express ourselves to others, to be vulnerable, as well as to seek reconciliation and forgiveness.