Attachment and Earned Security With Couples
The purpose of adult attachments is to earn security. We naturally desire to have someone come alongside of us in our adult years who will build a secure attachment with us. When we feel insecure in our love relationship communication suffers, intimacy suffers, and enjoying time together begins to disappear.
Many couples come in to touch base with a psychologist to understand “what are we doing wrong?” It is important that couples can explore their fears and doubts about their relationship in a non-judgemental, supportive environment.
It is so important to understand the emotional needs of ourselves and our partner and to build a method to safely express our vulnerability. It is equally important to experience forgiveness and reconciliation in our love relationship. A counselling setting can facility such dialog.